I have got to say I am a hopeless romantic, and when I like someone, I tend to really fall for them, and the majority of the time they don't feel the same way, and if they do for a short amount of time it is most likely I scare them off because, to put it bluntly, strong feelings freak me out. I try to give people the benefit of the doubt, like to see the good in people and do not like to hold a grudge, which means some people see me as naive, and I often get taken advantage of because of my nature.
So this book was basically written for women just like me.

The book gave me a really clear perspective on my actions, the actions (or lack of actions) of others and most importantly my worth.

What I like most about this book is it is written by both a man and a woman so you get the perspective from both genders, it's not often I get to the opinion of a straight male on my (non-existent) love life, and girlfriends can often not want to hurt your feelings. Also, your friends can (understandably) get a little fed up with you constantly asking advice and opinions on the same guy, so sooner or later you stop asking and begin to overthink every little detail of your (non) relationship with the guy (or girl) in question, which certainly isn't healthy.

The style of writing throughout the book it's very conversational so it's a quick easy read. A lot of the book is as letters to Greg (the male writer) who responds with advice and opinions which are very to the point - which I'd say if what you need a lot of the time you want to believe something which might not be the truth (it's easy to confuse the truth with what you might want).

I've got to say the book was most definitely an eye-opener for me. It has made me realise I make excuses for people not being very good to me in hope that there might be some small part of them which may care for me, I over complicate things in order to find a way to see the good in someone - but it's as simple as people who care act like it, and people who don't, don't.

I am not going to say much more about the messages the book gives in case any of you decide to give it a read, but I will say I would recommend this book to any girl who often finds themselves let down by guys. I expected reading a self-help book to feel slightly belittling and patronising, I mean I'm not stupid (as I said the book isn't something I'd usually read), however, it wasn't at all like that, it just had the balls to say what my friends might not. Rather than making me feel weak as I had expected reading this made me feel empowered and happier with myself.

It feels like ages since I have sat and wrote a blog post, however it has only been just over a week. I was getting into a routine of blogging almost daily, and originally planned to publish a blog post every day during November,  yet I soon found myself uninspired, and lacking blog post ideas, after some thought I decided I would rather not force blog posts although it would mean not sticking to daily blogging. I don't want blogging to begin to feel like a chore, and I don't want to lose the enjoyment of blogging or forget why I started. At the end of the day blogging is a hobby I enjoy, I do not earn any money (or product) from my blog, so although it nice to have a blog which publishes posts with great photos and thought out content every day, it's nicer to blog for enjoyment without the pressure of forcing a post each day, and I think that enjoyment shines through within the post content, making it a much nicer read.

Another reason the blog posts have been lacking this week is I have started a new job. It's nothing too exciting I am afraid, I am simply working as a Christmas Temp in a retail store. So far I have only been working really short hours, I have found it super tiring as I am still settling into the job and trying to get into some sort of a routine, which is difficult when shifts are constantly varying.

Another (slightly more shallow) change I've had recently is to my hair, I've had my long (it was past my boobs at one point) cut off. I did it in two stages because I didn't want it to be too much of a shock. It now sits just on my shoulders. It is also no longer red. After having vibrant red hair for years I decided I need a change to it, so I have dyed it darker in an attempt to hide the red. Some people have told me it's still red, but it is nowhere near as red as it once was. I've got to say although not many people seem to keep, it's good to no longer to be red. Eventually I want to go a dirty blonde colour, however, that is going to take a while to until all of the red is gone, and then I still have to lighten it (hopefully without ruining my hair too much).


On Saturday night I had a night out in Bristol for mine, Amys and Matts birthdays with some friends which were really nice. It meant catching up with friends, drinking and dancing. I haven't had a night out in town in ages so I felt it was much needed. I meant to take some photos to share on here, but I was too busy having a good time to get my camera out, so I was only in one photo the entire night (which I don't think I look too great in).

I didn't spend much money at all, I just picked up a few little bits and bobs.

♥ 22 birthday celebrations with Amy in Plymouth ♥ Blowing out candles ♥ Birthday night out at home with some favourites ♥ Classy toilet photo with Amy ♥ Myself and Daniel ♥ High Side Ponytails with Jessy ♥ Night out with Jessy, Benj and Matthew John Tovey ♥  We've gained a hat ♥ Kisses for Jaynie ♥ The best outfits with Rosie♥ Cowboy Benji ♥ Matt visiting Plymouth ♥ Pouting with Mummy ♥ Mothers day ♥ Happy Birthday Jaynie ♥ Myself and Matt ♥

Jaynieeee ♥ Myself and Hannah ♥ Kisses for Dan ♥ My buds ♥ Jesses ♥ Favourites ♥ Flowers in my hair ♥ Jess and a view ♥ Walking shot ♥ Myself and Jessy V ♥ Rosie and Josie ♥ Fashion show day with Stacie ♥ Final Collection ♥ Excited buds ♥ 'Now we've got to get jobs' faces ♥ Fashion girls

1) Gone Girl - Gillian Flynn

2) Not that kind of Girl - Lena Dunham

3) The Night Circus - Erin Morgenstern

4) Girl Online - Zoe Sugg

5) Paper Towns - John Green

6) #Girlboss - Sophia Amorusa

From yesterdays post you might have been able to tell I was having a bit of a down day. We all have off days where we're either feeling a little sad, sensitive or even angry, so after having a day like that yesterday I thought I would address how I go about coming out of the sad mist, and prevent myself from heading down a downward spiral of unhappiness, as life doesn't always turn out as planned and can therefore sometimes feel quite disappointed, to say the least.

First off I want to say I think sometimes it is quite important to let ourselves feel sad (or angry, or hurt, whatever negative emotion you might be feeling), it's a human emotion and I like to think there is a reason we sometimes feel sad. Of course, I only mean to a certain extent, it is no good feeling sorry for yourself (I'm a bit of a hypocrite I admit I have previously been guilty of this), but sometimes we need to cry. Emotions can get too much and they're not used in letting to build up to an extent you feel like you and going to explode - as I'm sure you might think you did a good job of hiding all these emotions but your friends may notice your slightly shorter fuse, you may also explode with emotion at the wrong time, wrong place, and around the wrong people. You get my point, right? Be sad if you need to be, if you feel sad. Don't feel sad for the sake of feeling sad.

Once you've felt sad, maybe had a bit of a cry and all these emotions swirling around in your mess of a head seem to have dissolved or settled in some small way then it's time to pick yourself up, brush yourself off, wipe away your tears and then, what?

I think if you have just had a bit of an emotional break down, you might be feeling okay now it's over, but it's a clear sign things have been getting on top of you and you need to take some time out, otherwise I feel the next little breakdown may come a little sooner than you would like.

It doesn't necessarily have to be a long time out, it can literally be an hour or so - just some time to refresh your head.

Here are some little things I like to do during this time:

• Spend time with family - despite living with my family I do not feel I actually spend much time with them, as I live with them I don't tend to make time for them like an I do friends, and I definitely do not appreciate them enough. Today I had the perfect girly day of shopping, cooking and not really doing much with my mum, and it felt like exactly what I needed.
• Have an internet break - I admit I'm guilty of not doing this often enough, however you will find it can be quite refreshing to step back from my blog, twitter and instagram for a while.
• Catch up with my favourite youtube videos - This one totally contradicts the last, but we don't have to do them all at once, right? It doesn't require much thought, you might learn something, it might make you laugh, and it just allows you to get lost in someone else life when yours is feeling too much
• Read - I am a massive bookworm, I love reading. There's nothing like a good book to make me forget my problems and chill out. As with the youtube videos reading allows you to get lost in somebody else's life, which is always nice. 
• Get out your sketchbook - Since finishing University I have hardly drawn, despite it being a favourite hobby of mine, it's definitely something I want to get back into. When in the right mood I find drawing can be very therapeutic, plus you might create something worth keeping.
• Have a bath and a face mask - these might come hand in hand with the reading and youtube videos, there's nothing like a bath with your favourite bath products when you need to wind down
• Exercise - It is good for your body and mind, why not?
• Crochet/knit - I've recently been learning hand knit and crochet and now I've got into the swing of it I have to say, it's quite a nice little activity to do when you want to chill.

So these are just some ideas of bit I like to do to relax post meltdown before getting back into my usual routine. How do you unwind when things are getting a bit much?

Let's start with beauty...