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On accepting that I'm a little bit cringe | Think Piece

Monday, 14 October 2019
flatlay from coffee shop of the gentlewoman magazine, latte art, plant, and piece of cake


My friend Kelsey and I sat in a coffee shop surrounded by a wall of fake plants and aesthetically pleasing magazines carefully placed on the table beside our oat milk lattes. We sipped away the impressive latte art and endlessly laughed, as Kelsey used a napkin to write a list of all the... wanky things I said.

The list included sentence such as:

  •  "I've just come from Hypnotherapy" 
  • "the thing is I'm just trying to live my best life with the good vibes" 
  • "that's an attractive magazine" 
... you get it, I'm a bit of a knob. A cliché millennial, the kind which is obsessed with mindful living and motivational quotes, so much so, sometimes I find myself cringing at the words that leave my mouth, and stopping myself hitting publish on blog posts because they are too much.

I like words and I've always been a fan of a good quote, usually the cheesier, the better. However, this is something I've often felt embarrassed by. Very few people can pull off cool girl vibes while writing poetry about the boys they fancy, and banging on about the law of attraction.

But I've realised it doesn't matter if I'm cool.
This is both obvious, and life-changing. It's somehow, it's taken me nearly 28 years to figure this out. 


It's important to me, that I'm authentic, true to myself. But something you don't get told about being your truest self is, that it takes balls. Especially if you've spent your life watering-down who you are, and diluting what you like through fear of judgement.

I used to get embarrassed when people found my old Tumblr account because I'd reblog poetry, quote and beautiful words, which make it clear, I have... feelings. Because people mainly don't talk about there feelings, or when they do, we're not living them so we don't understand the intensity of the thoughts which cross another person's mind. Sharing words which are crafted to make a person feel opens up some vulnerability. It also can feel like a way of inviting others to simply take the piss.

Now having said this, I've seen a lot of people create similar content to that which I used to reblog on Tumblr, and content similar to what I want to create, based around intentional living, or share emotional poetry as still come across cool af.

But they are not me, and I am not them.

I'm not effortlessly cool, instead, I'm a little cringe. So rather than deny it, it's time to lean into it.

I tried to post Instagram stories apologising for my cringy-ness, yet Instagram was not on my side, instead of posting I received a notification to say it has not worked, as if the universe simply was not allowing me to say sorry for being me. It felt like a sign.

I realised, coming off of my recent post about where my blog is going if I am going to take it where I want to take it, I need fully be me, I need to lean into my 'cringy-ness' because that's what feels authentic to me.


The same day that Kelsey and I wrote the list, I pulled out my portable phone charger. It's millennial pink and says good vibes on it (similar here), Kelsey laughed and said to me "you're such a wanker and I love it"

I think it's time I started to love it too.
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A Little Life Catch Up | The Law of Attraction | Gifted Clothes

Monday, 7 October 2019
blonde girl wearing femme luxe outfit. Casual blue ripped denim high waisted jeans and black and white printed graphic tee

blonde girl wearing femme luxe outfit. Casual blue ripped denim jeans and black and white printed graphic tee
blonde girl wearing femme luxe outfit. Casual blue ripped denim jeans and black and white printed graphic tee
blonde girl wearing femme luxe outfit. Casual blue ripped denim jeans and black and white printed graphic tee

Hello! Hi! 

As the brand Femme Luxe kindly gifted me some pieces,  I thought I'd share an outfit and as it's been a couple of weeks, I feel a little life catch up is due. 
It's been a couple of weeks. What can I say, despite promising to get back to regular blogging, life got busy, not in the struggling to meet deadlines and can hardly find time to pee way, but busy in a good way - you know when you find your calendar full of the things and people you love, and you're too busy living in the moment to consider your online presence.

 I feel I've moved onto a new phase of my life, I'm beginning a new chapter in the book. Both slowly, and suddenly things have begun morphing into something new. Blogging, however, took a little back seat as I enjoyed the metamorphosis. 

Something I talk about a lot on this blog and on my youtube channel is the Law of Attraction (there will be a full blog post on this soon, I promise), recently I feel I've seen it in action, I got myself a front-row seat to the universe doing its thing. The universe has been on my side and I've found myself manifesting some pretty wonderful things. 


 At the start of the year, I said I wanted to work with more brands on the blog... this blogpost is in partnership with Femme Luxe who kindly gifted my jeans and tee, how cute are they?! They're the perfect ripped high waisted jeans, and the tee is so easy to wear, both perfect for when I'm going for a casual look. All links will be at the bottom of the post!

Life has been full and fulfilling lately. I've been completing an internship with the sustainable fashion brand Lady K Loves, in hope that it will both teach me, and open doors. In all honesty, it's exceeded my expectations - I've learnt skills which I hope will help me improve this little website of my and be valuable in my career.

On finishing my internship, I've found myself with a new job, working for a Cruise company. I'll be doing social media, working from home, with flexible hours, which is exactly what I had been in search of. I'm really excited to throw myself into it (if you're into Cruises, I'll be sharing some pretty good deals on this facebook group)


Earlier in the year, I wrote this post about how I wanted to be more open to love, which leads me to my other big piece of news - I've found myself in a relationship. It's early days, but I am very happy. It's been a long time since I've had a romantic relationship, I almost forgot the magic they hold. Recently I've been living in a bubble with my boyfriend, soaking in the details of each other. It's been wonderful. I definitely don't think the romantic relationship is a requirement for happiness, I don't think I'd be in this one if weren't happy beforehand. But still, I feel like I'm floating now, floating and falling that is, and everything about it is enhancing my life. Unlike my usual approach, but I put blogging on hold for a couple of weeks because I realised creating memories mattered more. Because I knew, that the start of a relationship, this one especially matters, and I wanted to be present in that, rather than at my laptop.

I'm trying to figure out a balance. I definitely want to get back to weekly blogpost - and from now, you can expect them each Monday at 9.30am, but I also want to be present in my own life, and sometimes that requires not documenting and just living. I haven't come to a conclusion on this really, it's just going with what feels right at the moment, and making sure I'm organised enough to make sure that's possible.


So, there are my happy little updates, as my tee says

  Life's a peach.






Outfit Details

Tee: Femme Luxe (*gifted) | Jeans: Femme Luxe (*gifted) | Shoes: H&M (*affiliate link) | Lipstick: Sleek Matte Me in Shabby Chic (*affiliate link)



blonde girl wearing femme luxe outfit. Casual blue ripped denim high waisted jeans and black and white printed graphic tee


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